The Difference Between Sex and Sexuality

I received a great question, which gives me the perfect opportunity to specify exactly what I'm looking to do.  The great author of the blog 'Homo On The Loose' asks:

Are you interested in sex or sexuality?

Do you perceive a difference between the two? If so, what would that difference be?

Of course, I am interested in both; however, I am becoming to see discussions on sex as mundane.

Although sex and sexuality are interconnected, (you can't spell sexuality without sex) there is absolutely a difference. Sex is about what feels good, what looks good, how to do it good, whereas sexuality is more about why does it feel good, why do you find that attractive? The answer to that question reveals a lot more about a person.

An example of this would be: we could both find Asian men attractive (sex), however, we could have two totally different bases of attraction (i.e. you could think they're beautiful and I could think they're typically submissive). Delving deeper, the fact that I am in search of submissive men could indicate either: (1) I feel that the rest of my life is out of control, so I want the utmost control in my relationships (2) I could be turned on by dominant/submissive play (3) My first love was submissive, so I subconsciously attempt to obtain that feeling again...The list goes on and on and on...

Everyone loves sex, that's one thing we can all agree on, but once we put our sexuality under a microscope we can truly marvel at how unique we are.

7 comments:

iDELLA*BELLE! said...

You can go to WWW.THUGSTATUS.COM

its a new online forum and you can talk about anything that you'd like and we are always talking about sexuality, like i made a thread about bisexuality. Whether it is real or a myth. I identify as a bisexual myself but a real one.

I do think that most BLACK GAYS wanna say bisexual as a lesser punishment as another agreed with me. IT wont make people like you any more! People are always going to be unhappy.

I also think that a real bisexual can date either sex and be committed and spend their lives with that special someone male or female.

I think that a lot of them are confused when they say bisexual but know they only like men. A lot of them want to end up with a woman because they think it will send them to heaven or make their lives easier. as I said before PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS FIND SOMETHING TO GIVE YOU HELL ABOUT NO MATTER IF YOU ARE STRAIGHT OR GAY.


Sleeping with a man one week and a woman the next is not bisexual to me! Thats a HO! I have so many thoughts on sexuality.

One person wrote in that specific thread that SEXUALITY IS FLUID.

Forbidden Light said...

LMAO...Thank you for the heads up, I'll go right over and check it out...

The coolest think about sexuality is that it differs from person to person. Everyone has their own signature brand of sexuality.

Now that you say it, I maybe just a hoe-sexual after all!!!

iDELLA*BELLE! said...

well i like you and i like your blog so represent baby!

*DELLA!

OH AND CHECK OUT MY BLOG. ID LOVE TO INTERVIEW YOU FOR IT.

ToddyEnglish said...

Well, as an absolute homo myself(lol) I do have a question for bisexual men...
Can a bisexual man truly be faithful to one partner, of either gender?
What would happen if you truly desired someone of the opposite sex while with your same sex partner (or vice versa)?

Forbidden Light said...

Toddy! What a pleasure!

Who are we kidding, monogamy is challenging for almost everyone...

I do believe that a bisexual person could be faithful to one person. It is, however, a very difficult choice to make because each gender has something different to offer.

On a personal note, I was in a relationship with a woman for five years and I remained totally faithful. (She was informed of my bisexually) To cope, I did jack off a lot to gay porn though!

*DELLA! said...

WELL ITS ONE OF THE LESSER EVILS...I ALWAYS TELL WOMEN I STILL LIKE MEN AND MEN THAT I STILL LIKE WOMEN. I CAN BE FAITHFUL BUT AT THE SAME TIME I LOVES MI GAY PORN BECAUSE THE STRAIGHT STUFF IS JUST TOO OVER THE TOP AND THEY NEVER USE CONDOMS..ITS DISGUSTING.

Forbidden Light said...

Man, I know...If I had the opportunity, I'd direct some straight porn and make it for bi men! I think that's my obsession, to see if there's straight porn catered to bi's...that'll be some confusing shit

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