Sex for Disabled People
I have lovers who are sex workers. Occasionally, they are contacted by clients with certain disabilities and/or deformities. Searching for an intimate, sexual experience, they desire to be pleasured by someone who sees beyond their disabilities and/or deformities. I moment to let their inhibitions go without judgement. This brand of acceptance is very scarce in this world.
In a society where sexuality amongst the handicapped is considered taboo, there are low to zero opportunities to have the sexual/intimate needs of disabled people met conventionally. I can certainly see how one could be very frustrated with the limited possibilities available. Especially knowing that some disabled people identify themselves as queer and/or kinky. I can only imagine how challenging it can be to find satisfaction.
Personally, I have always felt a discrepancy around able-bodied and handicapped relationships. There is always a fear that the disabled could be preyed upon and taken advantaged of sexually. As mentioned in the video, it never crosses their mind that: (1) The disabled are mature sexual beings, complete with needs and resources to engage in adult situations. (2) Most disabled adults are competent enough to reject unwelcomed advances. (3) There are disabled perverts out there who would love to be objectified, if given the chance.
Ultimately, it is up to disabled men and women to assert themselves and challenge the opinions of the majority. I, personally, would love to see a sexually liberated person with disabilities! Hearing impairments have never been known to reduce libido. Men, whether with seeing-eye dog or crutches, will always be men...fully intact with with hormones and hard-ons. We all need to hear more stories about fantasies wetting the seat of her wheelchair.
I honor my lovers' practice and I consider their sex work a ministry. Giving disable men and women the tools and environment to further understand their emotional and sexual identities is commendable. With better knowledge about themselves, I believe they are better equipped to engage with a conventional partner...just like the rest of us