There are several reason why pornography is so popular and successful. For one, since the beginning of time, people have been fixated on the private parts of other's bodies and life. We're especially piqued towards the beautiful ones; everyone wants to see and measure what's within their garments and witness how it's used. There is a particular reason I believe to be the most pivotal in all sex-related industries; prostitution, massages, toys and so forth. Emotional and Cognitive Sterility.
In pornography, the participants are reduced to the the bare basics. They are driven by desire and their only language is wanton moaning; there is no preliminary or subsequent discussions about the arrangements. There are no expectations or intentions concerning the sexual activity. There is only fucking. On top of seeing beautiful and clean-as-a-whistle models go at it, we also get to enjoy a moment where there is truly no strings attached. We pay to see god and goddess fuck like primitive hedonists.
By no means am I an advocate against porn; I truly love it! But I think some aspects of the glamour goes unnoticed as the average viewer enjoys some quality time with film and Jergens. Sex between two or more people, regardless of understanding, is riddled with unspoken messages, expectations and interpretations. Matter of fact, if you think about it, even masturbation has it's share of messages; there's just less chatter.
But honesty, who wants to deal with the pressure of symbolic strokes; if he jackhammers, does that mean he doesn't care? Who wants to get a headache from translating oral; if she looks me in the eyes, is she looking for approval or something else? When I decide to plant me seed inside of someone, I don't necessarily want my hopes, dreams and devotion to be buried with it. We are forever chasing the perfect scenario where sex is just sex...Primal...Passionate...Pleasurable. But are we chasing a phantom?
My personal belief is that sex is our confessional for our frustrations, ambitions and curiosities. My question would be, what does this desire say about our experience with life?
On one hand, we long for mind numbing sex without repercussions because our lives have far too many strings attached. Everything we say, do, think and wear is constantly being translated into assumptions and summuries. "Oh, he drives a Focus." "He dresses like a prep." "He's studying philosophy." No wonder I am driven to have hot, stiff, non-commital sex. I am judged everywhere and in every way.
On the other hand, we seek this out because society holds us to our every decision with great vengeance, in spite of our everchanging preferences. We are bombarded with credit ratings, marital law and legally binding contracts. Why bring that same permanence to our boudoir? I, for one, love the opportunity to live in the moment without the risk of it effecting me forever. We engage in sex to drop a heavy load (pardon the pun) not to pick up baggage.Where am I going with this? I think we should acknowledge this desire we have to be noncommittal at times. When being open and clear about this desired arrangement, we can attract an ideal situation. Freaks of a feather flock together, you could find yourself amongst the gods; who knows? Also with this acknowledgement comes deliverance from unfair judgements and commitments we place on ourselves. With the freedom to be flexible and beyond judgement, the world will follow your lead.
P.S.- Keep it safe, kids.
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