There is a percentage of gay men that I feel are conveniently gay or gay by circumstance. As superficial as the gay community can be, it is also very accepting of people that are...different. Now, don't throw tomatoes at me just yet, let me explain myself! When I say different, I am not just targeting the physically awkward or the socially impaired, but also those with very unconventional mind frames. I have been noticing that some people have no other choice but to be either gay or lonely.
Believe it or not, there are some men that are naturally effeminate; they speak with a lisp because of a speech impediment and frail bodies run in their family. I have seen this for myself. In spite of being heterosexual, women assume that these guys are gay. No amount of persuading could convince a woman, especially when you're saying, "People always take me for a homothexual, but I'm not." Furthermore, women normally prefer men that provides a certain feeling of security; it's needless to say that these guys do not qualify. To make matters worse, its even more difficult to convince the men knocking down their door.
At what point do you throw up the white flag and accept love, regardless of where it's coming from?
Some men suffer from social anxieties, they have a very hard time approaching anyone, let alone someone of the opposite sex. Due to their crippling shyness, they require someone dominant to engage them into a relationship. When there aren't enough overbearing women available, they fall into the grasp of alpha males or power bottoms. Homosexual by circumstance, this kind of man would've been with whomever snatched him up first. In my book, he's a pushover, not gay.
I have come across some men and women that were too eccentric to be in a heterosexual relationship. These people have such an abstract view on sex and relationships, that they fall into homosexual lifestyle almost by accident. What other community receives polyamory, kinky sex and other wild preferences so freely? These guys are attracted to acceptance more than the same-sex.
This also applies to lesbians as well; I have many stud friends that are actually bisexual but very few men are attracted to masculine women. So, they get in where the fit in. However, if presented with a heterosexual fling where acceptance was evident, they would definitely give it a try.
Where am I going with this?
I think homosexuality is learned for some people, or better, homosexuality is chosen as the best option in an otherwise bad hand. In spite of internal feelings and desires, 'you can't choose family' sometimes.
Okay, I'm ready for the tomatoes!